Saturday, March 9, 2013

Disciplinary Actions

Q: Which is the best and effective way to discipline my child?

A: When it comes to disciplinary actions, the topic becomes controversial. There are different and sometimes weird responses on how to discipline your child. But let’s face it, you do need to set some boundaries with your children and let them know you are the parent and they are the children and demand your respect. To discipline your child you need to challenge their mind not always their behind because they don’t always remember the reason only the pain. Here are some tips set in different age groups because disciplinary actions must change as they get older. I call these tips The New Time Out.

Age 1-4: You must start to set boundaries as early as possible to establish your role as a parent. During this age, you will be faced with all the temper tantrums and screaming. To discipline these actions, get your child to sit down, Indian style and be quiet. Always let them know why they are in time out. Talk to them and interact with them, to get them to listen and understand their actions. Then leave them in that quiet place for at least 5 min., but not to far out of your eye sight. Most likely they will try to get up and cry and if they do repeat the process and the time will automatically start over until that are able to sit still for at least 5 min.

Age 5-9: In this time out age group, things change slightly. When you discipline this age group, the time out period can last a day or two. Electronics and video games are put away and chores and books takes the place. Your child should be sent in the room, doors open where you can watch them and they may read , do homework, color, or do the chores they are assigned. Don’t forget to talk to your child about their actions and explain the difference between good and bad actions and the consequences behind them.

Age 10 and up: Disciplinary actions for this age group changes a little bit more. For this age group, time out can last up to a week. The child is sent to their room, doors open unless changing clothes or something private and their back open again so you may watch them. No electronics of any kind. They may do their chores, read a book, do homework, or something educational. Time out is about thinking about their actions. During the course of their time out period have them to write out their actions, how they need to improve their actions, and why they need to change their actions. Have the short essay to be due at the end of their time out period and make them read it to you and you both talk about it in order for the time out period to end.

Disciplinary actions is a must and these are effective ways to discipline your children without spanking or torture. It gets their minds engaged to the actions they have made and make them realize the consequence of their actions. I hope these tips are a big help to you and your family. If you have any questions or comments feel free to leave them. Thanks and God Bless.